- Know thyself (boundaries, preferences, cultivate voice and self expression)
- Observe
- To participate : listen / look for a yes to join (ideally with eye contact)
- Start ‘low and slow’ with a light touch with hand or foot and listen / look for a yes
- Continue to pro-actively monitor all communication channels (verbal, energetic, physical…)
- Let go of attachment to outcome ‘Invitation without expectation’
heart tribe vide guide {by Razma}
Heart Tribe Vibe Guide
SomanautZ Principals : Purr With Purpose
If You Are Un-Comfortable, Move
: put self-care first – give from your abundance : respect your own sensation as a call to action and trust that others will do the same : allow yourself to respond to attraction / repulsion without judgement or coercion : cultivate intuition : bless your bliss : proactively engage with your experience : redirect touch for your enjoyment : find and address the discomfort – transform through release / repositioning : what would make you feel at home ? :
Safety Does Not Happen By Accident
: practice active consent : celebrate consent by asking permission without overlaying expectation through giving time & space for others to check internally : check messages being broadcast through both non/verbal channels : explore your partner’s communication style – know their personal sonic & somatic vocabulary : when unsure – ask : clarify – add detail to specific questions : what makes you feel safe ? :
Find Freedom Within Boundaries
: no means yes to something else : boundary = container : boundaries are defining – knowing boundary is knowing oneself : honor borders as awareness of healthy self-care : you are not the source / catalyst of other people’s boundaries – don’t take them personally : proactively manage your experience : knowing your no allows you to own your full yes : recall historical reasoning / associations : why do you have this boundary ? :
Invitation With Clear Expectation
: deepen into intimacy in sharing : clarify underlying intentions / motivations behind offers to allow partners to make an informed decision : allow space without attachment to hear un-pressured response : verbalizing boundaries is a historical marker that a boundary has been crossed in the past : proactively support the needs behind a boundary by clarifying why it was created : consent is qualitative – details add depth : is your boundary fixed, flexible, context-dependent, and does it have speedbumps ? :
Invitation Without Expectation = Authentic Gift
As Deep In, As Deep Out
: In-to-me-I-see = intimacy : one can only connect as deeply to someone else as one has connected to themselves : primary evolution is to feel into yourself, a reflection of this relationship is feeling out : connect to self-truth to be met authentically by others : self-initiate inquiry : find personal voice, experiment to learn preferences : what scares you ? :
Turn Projection Into Introspection
: outer world mirrors inner world : as above so below : principals of deep truth translate into all realms : own your feelings & framework : tell your own story : I statements create a window into your internal experience, adding definition and resolution to the structures that make up your perception of reality : causality = perspective : where are you related to what is around you ? :
You Are the Authority Of Your Own Experience
: externality degrades internal authority : internal voice as guide : choose your own adventure : discernment – find your level : titrate to taste : lifestyle resonance : rewrite your story : all possibilities are within you : change your perspective, change your life : challenge stereotypes & archetypes through individual inquiry : perpetual student of life : share studies & skills : what are you an expert in ? :
Tend The Field : Be An Agent Of Collective Well Being
: power = responsibility = response-ability : use privilege in pursuit of justice : move / act from the heart : generate net positive value in all interaction : group field is affected by presence : coherent resonance amplifies energy within the collective field : perhaps you are predisposed to play a certain part – but you are not limited to just that : call all to deeper awareness and clarity : delineated difference between pointing out individual behavior // a group reminder to pay attention : the universe is experiencing itself through you : think globally, act locally : how can you care for yourself through collective well-being ? : how can you inspire collective well being in self care? : how does the field speak through you? :
Nourish What Nourishes You
: model the culture you wish to manifest : encode understanding through embodying values in action : active, participatory container curation : co-create conscious culture : answer longing with belonging : what does it look like to live the world you dream of ? :
Drop In Deeper : Use Embodied Communication
express ~ no / yes / more / less / reassess : feel > think : authenticity = effortless embodiment : expressed body is real in rawness – remove cognitive filtration / judgement : intuit then articulate : if needing to clarify verbally – partnership has already fallen out of coherent somatic attunement – reminder to listen deeper : dive into receptivity to participate fully : practice touch literacy : develop language density : heighten resolution – distinguish subtle hues : wealth in nuance : communication = listening game : what was it like when you existed before words and felt other people ? : what does it feel like to be completely listened to and understood? are you speaking the same language ? :
Squish, Don’t Squash
The deeper the pressure, the deeper the listening : fast and light, deep and slow : checking-in is a constant collaborative calibration : When in doubt wait it out – slower speeds allow ample space for processing experiences and tuning into truth : reflect if inhibiting or overriding another’s ability to choose or move
distilled from interviews, immersive ethnography, & profound participation in the evolutionary edge of therapeutic touch >< compiling values of many communities : SomanautZ, SomasenZ, Squish Squad, Heart Tribe, Radical Bodyworkers of the Bay, somatic / transpersonal / expressive arts psychology, ecstatic dance, contact improvisation ++ a strong infusion of consent culture ++
8.24.18 by X RAZMA www.raz.ma
Consent Covenant
We commit to attunement :
I am in constant dialogue with my inner state & needs and monitoring my potential playmates on all communication channels : non-verbally (body language), energetically, and vocally. Consent is a continuous collaborative conversation and I continue to expand my capacity to scan, express, and receive messages through my present physicality.
We commit to expression :
Communicating my boundaries and preferences early and often, I am the caretaker of my body temple. I resound with sound and corporeal communication : I am sonically unrestrained and move towards what attracts me and readjust touch for personal pleasure. In sharing my vulnerability, want, and desire, I open to the possibility of deeper intimacy (= into me I see). I am completely responsible for my well-being and if I need help meeting my needs I ask immediately (noting how I can be more personally proactive in preparing for the future).
We commit to clarity :
‘When in doubt I wait it out’ – if I am uncertain as to whether my playmate is enthusiastic (if they are in a neutral or freeze state) I take a ‘prolonged pause’ and watch for signs of body-based affirmative consent (moving towards, rising to meet) and if still unclear, verbally check in.
We commit to a community of care :
We look out for our fellow playmates, especially those with less experience – committing to keeping a compassionate eye out for their best interests. I educate others through modelling respectful relations. I honor existing connections and relationships and seek a yes before inserting myself into an active dynamic.
We commit to ‘invitation without expectation’ :
I do not hold grabby, needy energy, or pressure my playmates when conveying my desires and requests. I support openness, curiosity, and expansive exploration. I know how to safely lean into my edges to evolve in my understanding of myself. I find freedom within boundaries and am inspired to act creatively within these limits.
We commit to aftercare for self & playmates :
I caretake the bodies and spirits of those I engage with – checking in to see if I can nurture them physically with water, food, or supportive touch (a blanket, spooning, cuddling). I am open to sharing what I enjoyed / found challenging – or agree to circle back with conversation at another time.
My presence within this liberated Sacred Space represents my full reading & embodiment of the Consent Covenant and that I commit to Confidentiality: No mentioning of names of participants or releasing documentation without explicit consent.
9.8.17 : consent content creatrix, X RAZMA : www.raz.ma